prochoice-or-gtfo:

aphony-cree:

dramagoblin:

wagnerock:

dramagoblin:

If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

Can someone translate this?

Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.

An apology should be “I’m sorry” + saying what you did wrong + showing you will work toward not doing it again

Example “I’m sorry I yelled at you about the presentation. I realize now I was trying to control the assignment when I should have been working with you as equal partners” 

Adding on to this, “I’m sorry you were offended” or “I’m sorry, that wasn’t my intention” are not acceptable apologies. Take responsibility for what you did, acknowledge your mistake, then express that you will actively try not to do it again. Don’t turn your apology around on the person you hurt and imply that their reaction was their fault, or that your lack of intent somehow justifies what you did. Even if it was accidental, that doesn’t nullify the effect of your words.
-V